Showing posts with label executive homemaker. Show all posts
Showing posts with label executive homemaker. Show all posts

Setting my Thighs Ablaze in my Reebok Running Skirt

Running Skirts have been my hearts desire since I began running. They are so darn cute and ladylike. This past year I told myself, when I lose 20 I will get a set. Well, the 20 is still on me and yesterday I bought a set to try out.

Reebok Playdry Pleated Skirt. Adorable. TJ Maxx had it on sale for $16.99 and in an XL.

This morning I tried it out during my 3 mile easy jog. Here's where it started to cause some friction...literally. The shorts under the skirt are not compression shorts. When 2 thighs that touch start a 4 mph jog the shorts ride up above the areas that touch. OUCH! The skirt itself pretty much stayed in place, thus hiding the turning-red-by-each-stride inside thighs!

Saturday I will wear this skirt for the Soldier Field 10 Mile, over compression running capris and see if the added layer helps with the short ride-up. Then maybe I'll do some cross-training to focus on these all-my-life troublesome areas to avoid this problem once and for all!

What brand running skirt do you wear? Pros, cons? How are they with inner thigh friction?

Overwhelmed? Ground Yourself.

Overwhelmed and ready to explode by all the "stuff" you are responsible for?  How does an Executive Homemaker reduce daily anxiety and still function?


Stop and smell the roses

There are days I want to crawl in a hole and just weep from the pressure of being overwhelmed. The days I don't weep I'm maniacally screaming my head off. Both are not good coping skills. Yesterday I was taught a Grounding Technique that needs to be incorporated into everyone's daily lives. It works!

Grounding techniques are intended to bring you to the present. They calm your mind by drawing it to your physical sensations and surroundings, essentially shutting off the have to's, should haves, when am I's that build up in your mind. Anxiety builds up from past feelings/experiences/tasks and worry for the future. I find my anxiety level peaks when I fall behind on the household maintenance for the week,  my time is crunched due to work orders, and throw in a beautiful day I should be spending solely focused on my daughter making memories. Time Bomb Ignited.

Time to Ground. No tools are needed nor a large time commitment. At the peak of your daily anxiety, first, LOOK UP! Strange as it may sound, when we are focused on tasks and feel overwhelmed we have ours eyes pointed down. Look up so your mind knows that you are taking a little break to regroup.

Next, take a few slow DEEP breaths. Then FEEL your "connection to the earth" aka, grounding. Start at your feet and focus on how they feel in your shoe and how it feels on the ground. Work your way up noticing how all your body parts feel touching whatever surface they are. Feel the weight on your shoulders lift. Listen to your surroundings, hear the birds outside, the traffic humming, the air conditioner/laundry machine/TV in the background, etc. Choose your rose (an object in front of you)  and hone in on it's details. What does it look like? What color? Does it smell? Does it make noise? Look at it's structure. Appreciate it for what it is, at this very moment. Do this for a few minutes, until you  feel calm and in control of this very moment.

Yes, your tasks still need to be done, but now your mind has stepped up by shutting up and you can calmly prioritize your next move.



Executive Homemaker Series: Stage 2

January 27th will mark my 2 year anniversary as a SWAHM. The first couple years for any executive are the make or break years. You come in like a tornado and either leave mass destruction or a rainbow in your wake. I'm proud to say I've created a rainbow. At the end of this rainbow I know is a pot of gold so I'm looking forward to climbing the beautiful colored arch to reach it.

Quick Self Performance Review
  • I have a great team of family and friends and happy helpers who made my transition a manageable one.
  • Ramped up productivity in pre-existing divisions. (Blogging, Shortycakes, Mom, Wife)
  • Started a second home business (Independent Watkins Associate #390284)
  • Formed The Home Binder Division as a starting point for the evolution of a more streamlined, efficient, and goal oriented household.
  • Cooked a whole hell of alot more than ever in my life, and 99% of it was edible!
  • Found and Reignited my passion for life, love, family, friends, business, and me!

What do I have planned for year 2?
  • Tweak and fine tune last year's goals and procedures
  • "Thin the herd" literally: Husband & Wife weight loss is on the books and the ROI is well worth the time & money investment. Also continue tightening the belt on spending and financial frugality.
  • Embrace my position as long term and no longer probationary.
  • Create 30 hours in a day
  • Cultivate my Purpose.

Executive Homemaker Series: Simplify & Automate

Simplify and Automate your life...easier said than done, BUT it can be done!

There are two places in my home that are my hot spots for collecting all things paper! My "Homemaker" Desk and my "Money Generating Business" Desk. It doesn't help that I shredded our shredder to death a while back and have yet to replace it, but I will confess, even with the shredder right next to my desk, I still created "shred" piles that accumulated to a few inches high.

Since we began our Frugal journey we started signing up for online bill paying. Yes, I was one of the last hold-outs using stamps and things called paper checks to pay bills that were snail mailed to me. WOW! What a difference things have been since I stopped paper bills from being mailed to me and automatic payment reminders sent to my email when a bill is due. One more thing I don't have to think about.

Now I've begun to do auto-bill pay. I'm hesitant with this just because we are on such a tight budget...what happens if we are a dollar short the day a bill is automaticaly paid?

Simplifing and automating certainly is not an overnight thing. I will give the process credit for making us really learn what makes our life chaotic and calm.



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Homeschooling. Who the hell am I?

Teaching in the Montessori pre-schoolImage via Wikipedia
Am I that mom? You know, the one who thinks her kid is a genius and way too advanced for public school. Nah, OK, well maybe (shouldn't we all think that).

No, I may be the other kind. The one who believes it is my responsibility as a parent to be the primary educator.

Nope, I'm just a cheap mom.  We want B to have a Montessori education but seeing that I'm not bringing in much mullah, a $7000 a year pre-school education is out of the question. We've opted instead to send her once a week to an Italian immersion school (not cheap by any means, but less than Montessori) then off to Montessori di Mama. Rant: Montessori was ITALIAN, yet NO Montessori schools around us teach the Italian language!

I'm looking at this more like a new business unit in our Demetrio Family Inc. One of our product lines is our Child! Our "company" is really becoming diversified with this new venture.

As I type, I hear the faint sound of "I am woman" playing melodically in the far off distance. Homeschool Marm, Online Boutique Baker & Party Events Planner, Writer, Direct Sales Entrepreneur, Executive Homemaker, Mom, Wife, Woman.

Stay tuned, I sense a new Mom Standard Series in the works!
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Executive Homemaker Cocktail Klatch: Hate being a SAHm!

After giving my brooding, woe-is-me self a kick in the rear, the Friday Executive Homemaker Cocktail Klatch is born.

 
A Klatch is a gathering characterized usually by informal conversation so please join in at any time. ~ I must pause to pour myself a nice cocktail~

 

Let the Klatch Begin!

 
Tonight’s Cocktail: Sunny V: Sunny Delight with Vodka served in a Red Panty Martini Glass. ~I’m feeling swanky~

 
Tonight’s Topic: Hating being a Stay-At-Home.
So, last week I was really in a funk. I hated being a SAHM in a big way. Wait; remove the M, that part I didn’t hate, just the SAH part. The monotony of everyday finally did me in. Pick up after others, wrangle the menagerie of animals, appease a toddler, keep all the back office crap organized, while the entire time trying to determine MY career objectives & paths. ~Pausing for a refill~

 
Know what’s funny? While in the “career” world the position I held was exactly the same as now.

 
Largest responsibilities included:
  • Picking up after everyone everyday to maintain a positive impression to clients, the government, our employees, the bank, the community, OSHA, etc.
  • Monitoring the corporate health aka morale & finances. Oh dear God. It took 6 years to get that company in the black!
  • Appeasing employees of which the majority acted like toddlers. Everyday there was whining from someone. Oh the pain to sit there straight faced my tongue and dialogue restrained by all the HR laws.
  • Reviewing my personal progress to ensure I was on my correct career trajectory.

 
The differences between my “today” career and my “yesterday” career:
  1. Money
  2. A network of my peers.

 
What? The SAHM niche is nothing but a network of peers.
“Today” I need to find the sub-niche of Career-Crossroads SAH’s. Does this make sense or am I drunk already? ~3rd drink’s a charm~

 
Tonight after chatting with the hubs, my what, where, & when is decided.
  1. Acquire the Certifications I need to move Shortycake Creations ahead. (Then on to another degree or two)
  2. Finish writing my in-process book series.
  3. Move forward with my Freelance Marketing Consulting. (Next project: I’ll be marketing my brother’s new book “unDiagnosed: A Story of Hope”)
  4. Teach my daughter to create a life map to keep track of all the paths she takes.

Side Topic:  Shout out to some Cool Blogs I've been Checking out:
  • Bay Area Bags http://www.bayareabags.com/ : If you're a woman (or man) and love designer hand bags, shoes, clothing, accessories then find out all the latest here! LOVE IT!
  • A Place for Us Blog http://www.aplaceforusblog.com/ : Take a look at how a cookie cutter house is turned into a one of a kind family sanctuary through DIY projects!
  • Tatertots & Jello http://tatertotsandjello.blogspot.com/: Into crafts or just wish you could? The tutorials and ideas will make you want to be called Martha!


 

Frugal Hamster Wheel

See that? That's the point where I'm either going to have a break-through or a break-down. Our Foray Into Frugality has been a hamster wheel of an adventure. A Frustereel. We need to move where it is sunny and warm all year round in order to attain our frugal nirvana. (Knudge to my hubs-get your citizenship stuff done!) The winter is this FruGal's Nemesis.

Hear that? The robins are back chirping away. Spring is around the corner. Let the annual "OK team, lets clean house and kick some frugal butt" routine begin.

While perusing Amazon.com for frugal living books, I came across "Radical Homemakers: Reclaiming Domesticity from a Consumer Culture". Here's the Product Description: 

"Mother Nature has shown her hand. Faced with climate change, dwindling resources, and species extinctions, most Americans understand the fundamental steps necessary to solve our global crises-drive less, consume less, increase self-reliance, buy locally, eat locally, rebuild our local communities. In essence, the great work we face requires rekindling the home fires.

Radical Homemakers is about men and women across the U.S. who focus on home and hearth as a political and ecological act, and who have centered their lives around family and community for personal fulfillment and cultural change. It explores what domesticity looks like in an era that has benefited from feminism, where domination and oppression are cast aside and where the choice to stay home is no longer equated with mind-numbing drudgery, economic insecurity, or relentless servitude.

Radical Homemakers nationwide speak about empowerment, transformation, happiness, and casting aside the pressures of a consumer culture to live in a world where money loses its power to relationships, independent thought, and creativity. If you ever considered quitting a job to plant tomatoes, read to a child, pursue creative work, can green beans and heal the planet, this is your book."
Anyone who knows me knows I love a challenge.  I love winning. I love pushing my limits. Couponing challenge-complete. Cash only purchasing-now a way of life. Cutting living expenses-Almost complete. Running a 10 mile race-training is right on target. Radical Homemaking...now this is a challenge I'm stoked to accept.

Grease up the wheel, I'm kicking it into overdrive.

Anyone else living Radical?
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Cuddle, Coffee, Clean, Commit

Good Housekeeping is one of several periodical...Image via Wikipedia
Executive Homemaker Series
Love at Last Sight: Week 1-The art of being all there.

This morning I walked into the dirtiest kitchen ever-gotta clean that today. I made myself a hot cup of coffee-must drink before B wakes. I hear "Mommy I want you to Cuddle with me." My knee-jerk reaction was "Crap!" then I remembered I need to be ALL THERE for the people in my life, starting this morning with my daughter.

This won't be the last time the kitchen is a mess and I have a microwave to reheat the coffee when able. I will never have this time to cuddle with her on February 14, 2011. So cuddle it was.

Week 1 of Love at Last Sight is about being all there. It takes practice and discipline and commitment. Here's what I need to do this week to get my key relationships on the right track.
  • Commit to one day a week disconnecting from Social Media (gasp). On that day, HAND write a letter or note to one of my key relationships. Hand write a letter to me about what I need from my relationship with myself.

  • Meet face to face with someone, make her feel she is the most important person in the world to me. That's as easy as just listening. Ask about her life. don't interject mine. Don't think of what I am going to say while she is talking. Just listen.

  • Make someone feel noticed and valuable, not invisible. Just a friendly "Good morning"  or smile will change the world!

  • Rate myself on how well I listen. How about when in a conflict? Does someone always need to "win" a fight? Check out www.lastsightchalleng.com for the authors' demonstration of a method to use during conflict.

  • On Day 7 this week, think about how committed I am to my key relationships. Recommit to be there for them no matter what.

Being all there this week will be a challenge but I'm ready to let those I love know they are. I think I'll feel pretty good too.

I'm already liking this new Executive Homemaker Series!
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Executive Homemaker Series: 30 Days to...

Recently I was contemplating doing ProBlogger's "31 Days to a Better Blog" for the second time. I have also  started a daily regime for our frugal lifestyle and how I keep house and all things related to it in order. I felt something just ain't right with this.

Two days ago I received a book in the mail to review. "Love at Last Sight: 30 days to grow and deepen your closest relationships." by Kerry & Chris Shook. Then it all came ashamedly clear.

I need to stop trying to put everything that I can't take with me when I die in order.  My main focus as mom, wife, woman should be putting in order my relationships with the people I will see at my last sight on this earth.

The continuation of my Executive Homemaker Series will be 30 days of getting our relationships right with the people we love.

Anyone interested in participating?

FREE Slow Cooker Recipes every Executive Homemaker should have!

Hi, my name is KimD and I always forget that I have a perfectly good slow cooker in the basement. Today I vow to bring it upstairs and make my life a whole lot easier with some good FREE recipes.

RecipeLion





Let me tell you about the time I concocted my own crock-pot recipe. 

Almond Garlic Chicken

That sounds delish, right? Me, being the Julia Child that I am, put chicken breasts, garlic cloves, and almond pie filling in the cooker. The aroma was wonderful. The meal tasted like...um, how should I put this...it tasted like I rummaged through a restaurant dumpster that hadn't been emptied in a month.  After half a bite, all the contents of the crock pot were thrown away in bio hazard bags!

Yes, my husband loves to tell that story. I've learned my lesson. Anything for Pie  use only for desserts!


Executive Homemaker Series: Trade Organization

Join a Trade Organization.

While out in the professional world, membership in such organizations are key to networking, knowing the inside scoop, and success.
As an Executive Homemaker you need to join a group. Find something that will help put you at an advantage as COO of your home and family.

Key word is ADVANTAGE. Don't go joining "Insecure parents are us" or "Hoarding makes me happy". Evaluate what you need to succeed & be number one in your field and find that group!

A great resource for groups is Meetup.com.  There you can find very specific groups to join that meet regularly.

Remember how coming back from a trade show you would feel energized, motivated, and ready to take on the industry? Why not feel this way for your new career?

Help other Executives out.
Please list the groups that you are involved with and a website if available!
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Single Income Slump

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OK, I've tried to ignore it. I tried pushing it out of sight, but I think I need to just address it. I've hit the Single Income Slump. We're still doing OK it's just that I miss making money! I'm a salesperson by nature and salespeople are motivated by money...that's how we measure our success. My 2 @home businesses are doing OK but my patience with making them hit it big is waining.

The other day I went to the eye doctor. (I can now see!) the girl asked, "your occupation?" I stumbled. I literally could not answer her. For my entire professional career I defined who I was by my occupation. When she asked me that question so many things ran through my head, one of which was "who am I now". Silly huh? I finally answered SAHM (I figured Executive Homemaker would confuse her) and felt guilty for not proudly stating that from the get go.

Maybe I've just been couped up in this house too long. Maybe I should get some Mom friends and hang out. Maybe I should get a job. Too many maybes and not enough coffee this morning.
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Executive Homemaker Series: Automate

Automate

Save time for fun things in life by automating as many things that you can. Here are 4 big ones that I use and am quite grateful for:

 
  1. Automatic Bill-Pay/E-bill. Stop the snail mail bills from coming-saves on paper clutter=less visual stimulating stress. Get an email reminder to pay a bill, click a few buttons and be done.
  2. Schedule a donation pick-up service once a month or quarterly. Throughout the weeks start bagging your donations so they're ready! Better yet, get one of those laundry clothes dividers and tag each department: donate, trash, out of season. Get the whole family involved, saving You, the Executive Homemaker, time!
  3. Shopping. Certain items you use on a regular basis-like vitamins-order them online and set up an automatic ship monthly. Make sure you're getting a good price on the products. There are some things that searching for the perfect coupon and driving to a different store to save money costs you more in time! I have a monthly shipment for my vitamins, supplements, Laundry Detergent (yes, frugal laundry detergent shipped to my door), cleaning supplies, baking staples (extracts, seasonings). Now my Sunday Coupon Craze is focused on food and toiletries. My coupon binder is lighter and my duration in stores is much shorter.
  4. Lights on and off. Go spend the few dollars on motion detectors, light sensors, and timers and put them on your lights. When you leave in the day and come home in the dark you can rest assured that a light will come on for you once you go through your door. We have our front porch light on a light sensor, the back entry light on a motion sensor, and a few timers on lights to make it look like someone is home when we are not! AND the lights shut themselves off too, so no wasted electricity due to those family members who haven't a clue how to work a light switch.

 
What other daily life duties can be automated to save our time?

Frugal My Way, deal.

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Frugal My Way
As Executive Homemaker and COO of this family, I'm pulling rank on some things.

  1. Just because we have a coupon doesn't mean we need it or will ever need it. Give someone else the coupon.
  2. Not going to replace our microwave straightaway after our Kitchen Remodel. Nor are we going to go overboard with tiling. The custom counter is enough extravagance. This old house can't handle too much change.
  3. Daughter will be taught the meaning of need in this house. You need something if it will keep you alive in some way. Driving past the "french fry house" does not constitute a Need.
  4. We will eat leftovers as many nights in a row as we have to so as not to waste any well cooked meals. The hubs will just have to accept this.
  5. Nothing but essentials should be plugged in around here. Charging a nose hair clipper that never gets used is obviously not essential.
  6. When the mega pack of diapers run out, the kid is getting potty trained, like it or not. Toilet paper is much cheaper than those darn diapers.

Stay tuned, more to come!
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Executive Homemaker Series: Golden Arch the Family

Close your eyes and think about your family. What image appears? When I do this a picture of my home appears.

Have I ever mentioned how much I love my home? It's a 100 year old tiny brick bungalow in need of alot of tender loving care. Inside it there is love, laughter, life! The home comes alive when we have friemly over and when it's the holidays the house seems to glow with excitement.

This weekend to make my household binder even more special I am going to work on a logo for my family. An image of our house will be in it for sure! The goal is when anyone sees our family logo it recalls emotions of  love, laughter, life, comfort, and all who are part of it.

What will your Family Logo resonate?
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You know what you want?

Your life can't go according to plan if you have no plan.

When you determine what you want, you have made the most important decision in your life.  You have to know what you want in order to attain it.-Douglas Lurtan

Executive Homemaker Series: the BINDER

Now that I've finally finished writing my family plan it's time to make it all pretty and in one place.  I'm compiling everything in a Binder. As Chief Operating Officer this binder will be my Employee Handbook, Standard Operating Procedures manual , and Quality Control Manual all in one!

There are some really great websites that provide printable templates and suggestions for the binder. I'm taking a bit from all of them to customize mine. (http://www.flylady.com/ is my Favorite!)

Let me tell you a bit about FlyLady.Net-it's awesome! She walks you through creating daily routines as well as scheduling what to clean and when. I've been following her for a week and just love that someone else has it all figured out and I'm not banging my head against the vacuum wondering what I should be doing when!

I feel so much more "in control" and  can focus on keeping things running smooth and looking forward to planning our future!
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Executive Homemaker Series: Pick It Up!

The nitty-gritty details of our Family Plan are written. We know where we want to be, who we want to be, what we want to have, and when we want it all. Finished with the "big Whig" corporate mumbojumbo and on to the dirty details.

My goal is to create a peaceful and well-managed household environment. After lamenting over all the daily details that need to be done around the house, they are best summed up in 4 easy rules.



Now that the plan is on paper I can focus on reaching our bigger goals knowing that the foundation of our family is informed, included, encouraged and confident the Executive Homemaker has their best interests in mind!

Do you have any daily household "rules" for your family to follow?

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Executive Homemaker Series: Nitty Gritty

The momentum is gaining!

Our Family Business Plan development is in full swing. Extensive meetings with "management" and going over the questionnaires really helped put everything on the table! DFI is pretty healthy in most areas-the hubs realized he needs to help out a wee bit more around here when he can. Fortunately my husband and I worked together in the real world, and we worked great together. We are attune to each others skills and business acumen. With this I am blessed!

The hubs and I listed EVERY goal/wish/dream for our family that came to mind. Dreams are tomorrow's memories. With this long, and at some parts, humorous list the negotiating begins.

Goals
Our main goal is to be debt free. The objectives for this goal lists all our debt, including the mortgage, dates for each to be paid off, and a general idea of how.  Last year we implemented the Snowball Method for Debt Repayment, which has proved a good fit for us. And a daily kick in the gut seeing the balances we still  have. The list is taped to the inside of our medicine cabinet. Good Morning-ouch!

After our broad goals (remodel house, learn Italian fluently, live in Italy, have a storefront for my boutique bakery items, publish a few books)were detailed we focused on the "departments". This is the part of a business structuring I enjoy. Our departments are Finance, Home, Recreation, Education, Human Resources, Succession. Each of these are further broken down as need be. For instance, under Home we have listed Maintenance.  Capital Maintenance: remodeling, major fixes, etc. and Upkeep Maintenance: Annual, quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily tasks. We have dates on the Annual and quarterly tasks otherwise we'll push them off! The key to breaking down into departments is to make sure every aspect of your family life stays in the direction of your goals.

By the end of this week we will have the nitty-gritty details for each department written down. Then on to the next part of the plan!

Did the questionnaires open your eyes to details you never thought of? Have you gotten everyone on board?


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